Many people when they talk about Dakini, they refer to women. When they talk about Daka, they refer to men. It’s just misunderstanding. The meaning of Daka and Dakini has nothing to do with men and women. Let me clear.
The absolute meaning of Dakini is that, when you are in the mahamudra state of mind, you have a state of emptiness, you have a state of clarity, and you have a state of joy. The joy has no connection with our normal exciting emotions. That joy is the true Dakini. All the other appearances are just symbolic gestures, they have nothing to do with the absolute meaning.
And women and men are equally important to the Buddha Dharma purpose to benefit all the sentient beings, and to benefit ourselves. That’s what we have to keep in mind.
With love and respect from your Kalu Rinpoche
Live talk Q&A on Facebook, Sep. 5th 2018